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Sleeping together, sleeping apart

Do you remember the first person you ever loved? I remember the first time the guy put his arm around me. We were sat outside on a bench and it felt so wonderful, I didn’t move for an hour, even though I really needed to go to the loo. It turns out his arm had gone numb from where I rested my head on it, but he didn’t move either, because he wanted to cherish the moment.

Sleeping together, sleeping apart

When love is new and fresh and exciting, you put up with some little discomforts, because your time together is so precious. But when the honeymoon period is over and you’re confident enough in thinking your relationship is going to last beyond the next night, you begin to think about your requirements and comforts again. If you can relate to the above, then you’re likely not to be surprised by the latest survey conducted by Travelodge, which looked into the preferred sleeping positions of British couples. The winner? Back to back, possibly the position that allows the most comfortable sleep for both partners, but blatantly also the least romantic.

Short of separate beds this is the position closest to actually sleeping alone. In fact, a quarter of the people questioned admitted to actually sleeping apart with their partners. Considering the fact that we’re talking about people aged 35-44 and not people in their 70s and 80s, this is quite an interesting development. On the other hand, the majority of those questioned, especially the men, did say they valued cuddling. Maybe this trend is nothing more than a reaction to the stresses of modern life. People in their 30s and 40s nowadays tend to have demanding jobs and need their sleep to function successfully.

The older and wiser you are, the more likely you are to assume that your love may well endure, so you are less likely to sacrifice comfort for your time together. On the other hand, one cannot help but mourn the death of the traditional goodnight kiss. Either way, if you’ve just started dating someone, it’s best to discuss these issues openly at the beginning, so that you don’t take anything personally in case you prefer different sleeping arrangements from those favoured by your new partner.

Written by Shimrit Elisar Written by Shimrit Elisar
Parship GmbH

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