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The first date

The first date

Having successfully made online contact with someone new, you should think about moving on to a first date. Emails and, in due course, phone calls can tell you a lot about someone, but face-to-face interaction is what matters most when it comes to a potential relationship. In these days of online dating, an easygoing first date is the preferred option for many people - maybe just a coffee somewhere nice. Whatever the venue, you’ll be thinking about making a positive impression. It’s almost like going to a job interview, so there might be a few nerves and worries along the way, but this advice from PARSHIP’s experts will put you at ease with some tips on getting the best out of a first date.

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The first date

How much does a first date tell you? Every encounter can hold possibilities, especially if you’re supported by PARSHIP and its scientifically proven matching. A first date can lead to a lifelong relationship - but it can also lead to a friendship or simply to a (polite) ‘Thanks, but no thanks’. Perhaps you can’t be sure within an hour whether you have found Mr or Ms Right, but you can know whether you would like a second date.

Ideally, a first date should take the form of a friendly and relaxed exchange of questions and answers. Don’t be afraid to ask some casual questions to get things going. Most people will be ready to tell you something about themselves. You should be ready reveal something about yourself too. If you are someone who tends to talk a lot when you are maybe a little nervous of excited, try and keep calm and to give the other person the opportunity to interact with you. If, though, you are someone who is more on the quiet side, show your date that you are reacting to what they are saying with some ‘active listening’. It will help the conversation to flow more easily.

The first time you meet someone, it is preferable to keep off subjects like past relationships and matters such as marriage, sex and personal crises. If a real rapport is established between the two of you, hopefully things will go beyond a first date, and you will have future opportunities for some more serious discussions. All being well, the two of you will take things to a second date. Whether you will then want to move into a relationship, only you can say.

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