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From a date to a relationship

If a first date goes well, it’s a matter of continued mutual discovery and possibly moving into a relationship at a pace that suits both of you. PARSHIP gives you a sound starting point with compatibility matching: the PARSHIP test supplies key insights into how you behave in a relationship. Hitting it off on a first date – or a second or third – is not, of course, the same as sustaining a relationship in the longer term. In a relationship, challenges can arise as you seek the right balances between your needs as an individual and your partner’s needs. Both of you need to be ready to be flexible to some degree, and compromises needed to be discussed and understood.

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From a date to a relationship

Each date is a journey of discovery. After you have spent time with someone - whether on a first date or after several dates - you will need to decide whether you’d like another date or whether things should stop there. There are likely to be moments when you have to say “It’s been nice knowing you …” Equally, you might find yourself having to face being told “Thanks, but no thanks”. That is never easy, but it is all part and parcel of the selection process as you look for a relationship that is really right for you.

If you see real potential in someone you have met, take things at a comfortable pace for both of you as you sound out each other’s needs, aspirations and strong and weak points.

In the first flush of excitement at a new relationship, rose-tinted spectacles can be a hazard - but so can excessive expectations of the other person. As the relationship develops, you need to learn to accept your potential partner for what he or she really is. The main emphasis in PARSHIP’s matching process is on the real person and how that real person acts when in a relationship. You need to give yourselves time to gain an understanding of each other and your behaviour in the different contexts that life has to offer.