Each date is a journey of discovery. After you have spent time with someone - whether on a first date or after several dates - you will need to decide whether you’d like another date or whether things should stop there. There are likely to be moments when you have to say “It’s been nice knowing you …” Equally, you might find yourself having to face being told “Thanks, but no thanks”. That is never easy, but it is all part and parcel of the selection process as you look for a relationship that is really right for you.
If you see real potential in someone you have met, take things at a comfortable pace for both of you as you sound out each other’s needs, aspirations and strong and weak points.
In the first flush of excitement at a new relationship, rose-tinted spectacles can be a hazard - but so can excessive expectations of the other person. As the relationship develops, you need to learn to accept your potential partner for what he or she really is. The main emphasis in PARSHIP’s matching process is on the real person and how that real person acts when in a relationship. You need to give yourselves time to gain an understanding of each other and your behaviour in the different contexts that life has to offer.